update on the kids.. and a little more good news

ok, so in the month that ryan, chelsea, and mitch have been away from my p.o.s. sister, things have changed for them SO MUCH!!! chelsea is no longer getting in trouble at school every day for her behavior.. she used to pull at least one card per day... since she's been with mom and doug, she's pulled a total of 2 cards!!! AWESOME!! and ryan is learning how to read now!! he got his first book-it EVER 2 weeks ago!!! i am so proud of him!! and he also decided that he wanted to sit at the group tables again instead of being by himself.. he had started to withdraw himself from the rest of the class, putting up walls so no one could get in, but those walls are coming down now!! i am so proud of both of them...

and some more good news-- my godson, william jeremy michael gates (aka-peanut), was born 1/27/10 at 12:24 pm.. 6 pounds 12.1 ounces, 19.75 inches long.. he is gorgeous and perfect!! and both peanut and mommy are doing great!!! well, that's all the updates for now...

just keep trying

not much has really changed in my life... but a lot has changed around me.. a few days before christmas, my mom and step-dad got custody of my niece and nephews.. my sister has gotten into heroin pretty bad, and was using in front of the kids.. so she is no longer allowed to see them.. which is going great for the kids.. ryan and chelsea get to see their dad now, and mitch has opened up immensely!! plus now ryan can focus on being a kid again.. 7 years old, and before this happened, he has been the one to fix breakfast and dinner nearly every day for himself, chelsea (age 5), and mitch (age 2).. after school, he would help chelsea with her home work, and then do his while keeping an eye on mitch... then before bed, he would make sure chelsea took her bath, and give mitch a bath, then take his bath, then make sure they all brushed their teeth, and then he would put mitch to bed, and make sure chelsea went to bed also.. this all sounds like a horror story you would watch on a lifetime movie network movie, or read in a book.. but it was happening to my niece and nephews.. and they didn't tell anyone... all ryan would ever say when he would see anyone was that he was tired because he couldn't sleep the night before.. :( but they are safe and happy now, and ryan is learning how to adjust to the change.. neither him or chelsea want to see or talk to ashley.. kinda sad..


in other, more positive news, my friends joe & britt had their baby girl thursday, jan 7th.. she's gorgeous!!! also, jason and my godson should be here within the next two weeks.. i'll know better monday, because that's when they're setting up nikki's induction :D so excited.. BUT.. now i have severe baby fever, and i think i can actually HEAR my biological clock ticking at me!!! so, jason and i are trying the good-old-fashioned way for now.. and if it doesn't work after a few months (since we have been unprotected for almost 9 years!!), i think i'm going to do something i always said i would never do, and try fertility pills.. they're an otc pill, and they are fda approved, so i should be safe with them.. and they seem to have a pretty high success rate... the lowest review of them was a 3 star, and that review was written less than a month after the person started taking them... so, i'm gonna keep my hopes up!!!


but ok.. i gotta go so i can get something to eat so i can get rid of this headache..

it's been a while..

it's been a while since i've written.. nothing has happened.. life's boring and it sucks... no job, no money, nothing to do... nothing's new in my life, so just figured i'd put something on here just to prove that i'm alive...

r.i.p. bubba...

i'll miss you boo-bear... );

my anniversary band (but my anniversary isn't until september.. hahahaha)

Just wanted to take a minute to wish everyone a happy, healthy, safe, and fun Independence Day!!!

healthy, happy, and home

mitch update

mitch is doing great.. they took him off the respirator last night, and this morning they took the breathing tubes out.. he was still tired and groggy when i left, but he was off the sedatives, and looking as close to normal as can be expected.. we're all hoping that he'll get moved out of the picu tonight, and maybe be released wednesday or thursday.. i'll keep you posted!!

right where he wanted to be... in mommy's arms....

NO MORE TUBES!!!!!!:)

scared....

tell me this isn't one of the most absolutely gorgeous little boys you've ever seen.... you can't do it without lying!!

ok.. so my mom like NEVER calls me anymore unless some thing's wrong.. but, thank God she calls me then... i had a voicemail when i got up today.. it was mom.. so i knew something was wrong.. and she was crying.. even worse.. so as i listen to the message, i almost start crying.. my sister took my youngest nephew, mitch (who is 21 months old), to mary rutan last night because he had a fever of 103 that wouldn't break no matter what she tried, he wasn't eating, and he was having a hard time breathing.. mary rutan, without even running any tests says he has bronchitis.. so my sister says, well why won't he eat then? and then they run a cat scan or something, and when the results come back, they find an abscess in his throat... and then they tell her to take him to children's in columbus.. so she does, and when they get there, mitch flatlined... they brought him back (THANK GOD!!!), and decide they need to operate.. so now, he's hooked up to a respirator, has a drainage tube in his throat, and he's got iv's.. they told ashley that if it had been 5 minutes later, they would have had to put in a trach... they have him sedated right now, and i think they're going to try to wake him up tomorrow.. so, i'm pulling an all-nighter so i can get to columbus early... i will post updates as soon as possible.. just please keep mitch in your prayers...

this is what he looked like when ashley got to childrens... );

no one understands.... need to vent..

ok.. so tonight is my brother's fight.. i called my mom thursday to ask her if doug was getting a table.. she said "yea, but it's full already".. which really hurts me because i know that their friends jeff & holly will be sitting there, and alana (who is dj's GIRLFRIEND-- she's not even related through marriage...), and ashley and troy (ashley's boyfriend), and probably ryan.. (and mom & doug of course).. so there's 8 seats full.. the reason why i'm hurt is because dusty is MY brother, not ashley's, not dj's, not troy's, not alana's, not jeff & holly's... and me and dusty are my mom's ONLY biological kids.. but alana and ashley and troy and jeff and holly are more important to my mom than me... well, since jason knew how bad i wanted to go tonight, he gave me the money to go =) but now, the closer it gets, the more nervous i get about going.. because i know who i'm going to see at the table.. and i know how bad it's going to hurt me.. and i'm afraid that i'm going to not be able to take it anymore and that i'm going to say something to my mom about it, and we're never going to talk again, because i'm tired of her hurting me all the time.. the only time i talk to her is when i call her.. and every time i talk to her, she's always telling me about how they had troy and ashley out for dinner, or they had dj and alana out for something else... but the last time jason and i (or even just i for that matter) was invited over-- christmas.. yea, that's right.. CHRISTMAS!!! other than that, it's been me calling and asking if it was ok if i stopped by.... why am i not good enough to even get invited over? what did i do wrong?? is it because i don't have kids?? but dj and alana don't have kids.. so what is it?? i am the only one who gets treated like dirt.. hell, doug is paying for dusty's college.. and not even asking dusty to pay him back, because doug feels bad for dusty because of the way dusty's dad is... apparently doug thinks i have the poerfect dad... HA!! i haven't even spoken to my father in almost 3 months.. i already gave up on him.. his ex-girlfriend is more important, and i don't really care.. it doesn't hurt me because he was never there for me as a kid.. but this whole thing with my mom has me in tears right now.. because she has been there.. every sporting event, every choir concert, every day of my life.. until i got serious with jason.. and mom always says she likes jason, but i'm starting to wonder, but i'm getting to the point that i don't care anymore, because i just have this strange feeling that after tonight, i'm not going to have a mom.. i can only let her hurt me for so long... and i don't think i can take much more... i'm on the verge of breakdown, and i know where there's a bottle of pills that would make me sleep for a LONG time, and there wouldn't be anymore pain.... wow.. no more pain.. that sounds incredible.. but even dead i wouldn't be good enough for anyone so i don't even see what the point in that would be.. i'll always be a failure no matter what... i wish i could just turn off my emotions, and put my steel wall around my heart again.. that would be nice.. to not let anyone hurt me... because this crying thing is getting really old...